Mardon Sabaraliyev

Anbiyolarga merosxo'r bo'lishdek buyuk martabani bergan ilmni qo'ldan boy berish aqli raso kishining ishi emas.

Imom Navaviy

Tushunib yetdimki, ibodat qilish aslida oson. Uning savobini habata bo'lmagan holatda Allohning oldigacha olib borish aslida qiyin.

Sunk Cost

Xitoyda yashagan paytlarimda bir hodisaga hayron bo'lar edim. Uyimning oldida yangi kafe ochilardi. Bir kunda tamirlab, ochib tashlashadi. Tantanali ochilish marosimi qilishadi.

Bir oydan keyin ham mijozlar oqimi yaxshilanmasa, shartta yopishadi. Ikki kundan keyin u joyda boshqa bir biznes ochib qo'yilgan bo'ladi.

Keyin tushunib yetdim. Xitoyda "sunk cost" tushunchasi madaniyatga aylanib ketgan. Ayniqsa tadbirkorlar orasida. Bir ish boshlab, unga vaqt, mablag', kuch sarflashadi. U ish muvaffaqiyatli bo'lmasa, undan oson voz kechishadi. Yurib ketishini kutib, yillar qiynalishmaydi.

Endi o'ylab qarasam, hayotimizda ko'p sohaga shunday fikrlashni tadbiq etsak bo'lar ekan.

A powerful study rule:

You consume, then you produce.

Read a page, then summarize it.

Watch a video, then explain it.

Take a lesson, jot down a few notes.

Input is the raw material. Produce something out of it.

Maqsad qo'yish muhim.

Lekin, oldin bazi muhim savollarga javob berish kerak.

1. Qo'ygan maqsadimga erishishdan aslida biror manfaat bormi?

Masalan, o'rtog'ingiz mashina olgani uchun siz ham mashina olishni maqsad qilishingiz mantiqsizlik. Aslida mashina sizga kerakmi? (mashina o'rnida hamma narsa bo'lishi mumkin)

2. Maqsadga erishish uchun belgilagan muddatim aslida puxta o'ylangan
hisob-kitobga asoslanganmi? Aslida shu muddat ichida maqsadimga erishish uchun menda resurslar yetadimi? Yoki miyyamga kelgan va nafsimga ma'qul bo'lgan birinchi fikr bilan ishlayabmanmi?

Masalan, uch oy ichida IELTS olishingiz kerak ekanligi haqidagi qaroringiz hozirgi ingliz tilini bilish darajangiz, nega aynan 4 emas, 3 oy, kunlik yuklama qancha bo'lishi va unga kuch va vaqtingiz yetishi kabilarni hisobga olganmi? Yoki miyyangizga birinchi kelgan muddat 3 oymi?

Maqsad bo'lsin. Lekin, maqsad maqsadli bo'lsin.

Victims of complacency

Ever achieved an ambitious goal and went "Well, that was tough! I have officially earned my right to relax now"?

If this sounds familiar, chances are what happens almost every time must also sound like you.

You let your hair down and blow off some steam, which seems perfectly justified. But it is here, in this euphoric state, that many start their descend into the pit of complacency where they remain a little too long.

After a great deal of (wasted) time, you realize, in retrospect, that only if you had continued exerting yourself.

What is even more concerning is phenomena that can make us complacent are becoming ever more trivial; buying a new car, acing IELTS, finishing a new book— you know the list.

Switching between English and Uzbek can cause unexpected problems.

As soon as I finished my morning class earlier today, one of my students ( a male one) brought a bag of chocolates and handed them to me. Obviously, the thought that first crossed my mind was that he was getting married. But what came out of my mouth in Uzbek was:

"Turmushga chiqyapsizmi?" and I immediately tried to correct myself by saying " Uzr, erga tegyapsizmi?"

I was just translating " are you getting married " into Uzbek as I was still thinking in English.

I hope he was not offended 😂

Keladigan har bir narsa yaqindir

Shanba kuni kechasi va yakshanba kuni ertalab nima qilishingizga qarab hayotda maqsadingiz bor yoki yo'qligini bilib olsa bo'ladi.

They teach to make a living.
You teach to enrich lives.

They prepare for class to avoid embarrassment.
You prepare to show what ihsan looks like in your craft.

They teach what they know.
You keep learning so your students can learn from your example.

They correct a student's mistake because it's their job.
You correct it because you don't want to repay their trust with an error.

They finish the lesson and move on.
You see your students as worthy of more: your time, your attention, your dua.

#inspiredـbyـgreatـteachers

Look at a scenario of a parent scolding at their kid from two different angles.

From the child’s perspective, it is a nightmare. The parent is (like always) making a big fuss some trivia. Pretty annoying. They hate it.

But the picture from the angle of a parent is rather different. The parent is experiencing a cocktail of anger, love, concern for the behavior of their kid, pain for scolding at the apple of their eye, remorse for having to go to this far all at the same time. This is something that one can only feel by experiencing it first-hand.

Having experienced this, now we can revisit all of our childhood “nightmares” of being yelled at or beaten for misbehavior. Now, we can feel for the pain of our parents at the time.

The greatest skill you can learn is to stay in a good mood when there are a hundred reasons not to. Anyone can be at peace when life is easy, but the real work is choosing your state of mind when everything around you is giving you permission to fall apart.

Qalb qattiqlashganda, diyda qotganda #tavsiya etiladigan amallar:

- ma'siyatlarni to'xtatish;
- nasuh tavba qilish;
- tungi namozni yo'lga qo'yish;
- unda zorlanib duo-iltijo qilish;
- solihlar suhbatida bo'lish;
- ehtiyojmandlarga yordam berish;
- yetim va nochorlarga yaqin bo'lish;
- bemorlarni yoki shifoxonalarni ziyorat qilish;
- o'lim va oxiratni ko'p eslash;
- janozalarda qatnashish;
- qabristonni ziyorat qilish;
- moddaparastlikni kamaytirish;
- kamroq yeyish;
- kamroq uxlash;
- ma'naviy/ruhiy quvvat amallarni qilish;
- ulug'lardan duo olish,..

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And the wound does not cause pain to the dead

Ferval oyida TedX da nutq so’zlash imkoniyati paydo bo’lmoqda. Nutq albatta ta’lim haqida bo’ladi. Maktabda yaxshi/yomon o’qish, kasbiy muvaffaqiyat, intellekt turlari va bularning hammasi bir biriga qanday bog’liqligi haqida nutq so’zlamoqchiman.

Energiya sarmoyasi

Turgan narsa kamayadi. To’g’ri yo’lda sarflangan resurs esa ko’payib qaytadi.

Pul uchun ishlaydigan bu qoida, energiya uchun ham ishlaydi.

Kundan-kunga kamayib ketayotgan kuchingiz ko’payishi uchun uni har kuni tugating. Oxirigacha.

Krossfit, yugurish, tosh ko’tarish, turnikka tortilish - qay biri bo’lsa ham.

Terlang.
Yog’laringiz yig’lasin.

Rizqning eng past ko'rinishi- bu boylik yoki pul. Rizqning qolgan har qanday ko'rinishi (ofiyat, oila, ota-ona, farzand, tana a'zolarimiz, aql, dos'tlar...) puldan afzal. Buning isboti shuki, rizqning yuqorida sanalgan hamma turi sizdan ketmasligi, yoki ketib qolganda qaytarish uchun har qancha pul sarflashga tayyorsiz. Lekin ularning hech birini, har qancha ko'p bo'lsa ham, pulga sotmaysiz.

Lekin shayton bizlarni boylik rizqning eng yuqori ko'rinishi deb tasavvur qilishga undaydi.

To'g'ri mezon: "Bu oxirat uchun yaxshimi yoki yomonmi?"

Buzuq mezon: "Bu dunyoyim uchun yaxshimi yoki yomonmi".

Dunyo uchun yaxshi bo'lgan hamma ish ham oxirat uchun yaxshi emas. Lekin oxirat uchun yaxshi bo'lgan hamma ish dunyo uchun ham yaxshi.

"Agar sen Allohning nazdida eng yaxshi odam bo'lsang, odamlar seni yomonlashlarining hech qanday zarari yo'q.

Agar sen Alloh taoloning dargohidagi eng yomon inson bo'lsang, odamlarning seni maqtashida hech qanday ma'no yo'q".

Imom Abu Homid G'azzoliy

Qarzdor bo'lishni to'xtatish kerak.

Qarzor bo'lish faqatgina pul qarz olish orqali bo'lmaydi.

Biz har safar kimnidir haqqiga qanday usul bilan bo'lsa ham hiyonat qilsak, biz o'sha insondan qarzdor bo'lamiz.
Masalan, kimnidir g'iybat qilsak, yoki kimnidir obro'sizlantirsak.

Qarzni uzish uchun uning siz poymol qilgan haqqini to'ldirish va shaxsan o'zidan kechirim so'rab, rozilik olish talab qilinadi.

End o'ylab ko'raylik. Bugun qancha qarzga botdik? Shu haftadachi? Shu oydachi?...

Eng katta hasrat- bu qarzlarning qiyomatga qolib ketishi.

Bugungi kundagi eng katta epidemiya bu COVID emas.

Eng katta illat bu mas’uliyat olishni hohlamaslik. Yani, mas’uliyat hissi bor odamlarning biror mas’uliyatli ishni zimmalariga olishni hohlamasliklari.

“Tinch” yashashni hohlash.

Ko’p uxlashni hohlash.

Boshqalar uchun xizmat qilishni hohlamaslik.

Tassavur qiling agar hamma shunday yashasa dunyo qanday holga keladi.

Ilm - bu bir chelak lego bo'laklari.

Hikmat-bu o'sha lego bo'laklarining eng keraklilarini kerakli o'rinda ishlatib, masalan, chiroyli uycha yoki boshqa go'zal buyumlar yasash.

Lego bo'laklarining ko'p bo'lgani yaxshi, lekin ulardan biror narsa yasashni eplay olinmasa, ular ortiqcha yuk bo'ladi va ortiqcha joy egallaydi holos.

Farosatli bo'lish aslida unchalik qiyin ish emas. Bor yo'g'i bu dunyoda sizdan boshqa odamlar ham borligini, ular ham siz hohlaydigan narsalarni hohlashini ongli ravishda tushunsangiz bo'ldi.